Friday, February 17, 2012

Confidence and Self-Esteem

~Why do so many people have low self esteem?~ 
I think in today's world we are all trying to be perfect at everything, and this is not realistic. Nobody is perfect, there is no such thing as perfect when it comes to things on earth. That is one of the most beautiful things about all of us though..... is that we are imperfect beings, this is what makes us all unique. Did you know that only 4% of women around the world considers themselves as beautiful? When we see that supermodel walking down the runway, perfect face, perfect body, perfect life; she isn't perfect. She may seem so in your eyes, but when she looks at herself in the mirror she sees the same things you do, too many flaws. We are all trying to be the things that we aren't, and we shouldn't do this, we should be proud of who we are as an individual. 

~You can't please everyone.~ 
Most of us have been picked on one time or another in our life, it hurts, but we shouldn't let it get us down. Although everyone is beautiful in their own way, not everyone will find you attractive, but others will. When you think you so ugly and fat (which by they way never use these words to describe you or anybody else!), that nobody will ever love you, you're wrong. There will always be somebody who finds you attractive, there will always be people out there who find you beautiful even if you don't think so. The people who love us are so much more kind and forgiving of us than we are to ourselves. Since we see ourselves everyday, we don't see the thrill of the way we look, but others do. 

~ There are so many different types of people in the world!~ 
Old and young, black and white, tall and short, thin and curvy; and they are all uniquely beautiful! We should all set healthy goals for ourselves to makes us feel good to be us. We are constantly bashing others because we don't feel good about ourselves. Curvy or chunky woman feel they need to hide there bodies, thin woman are told they are unhealthy, tall people want to be shorter, short people want to be taller. Most woman have 'rolls' or 'love handles', and other don't, and it doesn't make you unhealthy either way. We shouldn't focus on other woman's beauty as a reflection of our own, we all have different kinds of beauty within all of us. As long as your happy and healthy, don't feel the need to change any of these things; it is what makes you so special. 

This is not my picture, I do not own it.  

~It is more than just how you look.~ 
Don't let outer beauty over run your inner beauty. Being beautiful actually has more to do with who you are as a person and confidence. To me makeup is a ways for me to bring out the things that I love about my appearance and being creative and showing my personality through makeup kind of like with fashion. I think when we are applying makeup we are too focused on things we dislike about our appearance, rather than popping out the things we love. This makes us start to think negative things, and making us less confident. Learn to love yourself without makeup too, and never fell like you 'need it' or 'don't look good without it', it simply isn't true. 

Smile and feel good about yourself like Amanda Seyfried, know that you look great with and without makeup on. :] 

This is not my picture, I do not own it.  

~Wear whatever you want..... and embrace it!~ 
Never feel you can't wear something because your 'too curvy', 'too tall', 'not the right coloring'; just wear it! If it makes you happy it will show. Being comfortable in your skin in the best thing your can do for your self. Being confident means nothing is holding you back from the things that you want. If you love that swimsuit, wear it! When you are happy you will be confident. 

This is not my picture, I do not own it.  

~Why you should start looking at yourself in a different light.~ 
From now on when you look in the mirror, do not bash your body; instead complement it. I remember reading an article in Glamour magazine about all of the terrible things woman say to themselves. In the article they stated, "If you wouldn't say it to a friend, don't say it too yourself". We are all bullying ourselves so much that we are beginning to believe the things we think and say about ourselves. Everyday when you look into that mirror, tell yourself you are beautiful, even if you don't believe it at first, studies show if you tell yourself this enough, you will begin to believe it. The women below are all so different, but do you see they are all so beautiful in their own ways? 

This is not my picture, I do not own it.  

~How do you gain confidence in yourself?~ 
From now on only focus on the things about yourself that you love, and consider your flaws the most unique and beautiful things about you. When you look in the mirror each day remember to give yourself a compliment; if you slip up and pick on yourself, make that 5 more compliments you must give yourself! When somebody says something rude about you in any way, brush it off, and think of all of the compliments you have gotten in the past. Better yet you can even write a notebook of things you love about yourself, positive quotes, compliments from others you have received, ect. Look at this book when you are feeling down, and remember everyone is beautiful in their own ways. Remember to never hurt others, and promise me you will never do another one of those 'rate me' questions on any websites. To me people would not be put on a scale of beauty, because in someone's eyes, everyone is beautiful. Making other feel good, can also make you feel good; if you love a girl's hair, tell her that, you'll make her day (and yours!) a little brighter. These little things will make you confident in no time at all, and you can accomplish anything when your confident in yourself. 

Statistics- In a Dove research they found that 80% of woman agree that every woman has something about her that is beautiful but do not see their own beauty. 

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1 comment:

  1. 5th new follower :) Taylor I really love this post. We are all individuals therefor we are different from one another and this makes us who we are. We should also be proud of the way we look!!! Keep up the good job, xo-Chelise from